Bumping into elderly widows, clad in torn white or saffron saris, begging outside the Temples of Banke Bihari is a common experience for pilgrims and tourists visiting Vrindavan. Out of sympathy, people often offer some money, prasad and also some food to few of them.
With their heads shaven and pain etched by deep wrinkles on their faces, these frail old widows facing starvation live in extreme misery. They usually pass their days singing bhajans in temples for which they get paid a few coins. Many are seen begging in the streets or squatting or lying on the steps outside the temples. A few lucky ones live in various Ashrams, maintained by NGOs and state-run homes for widows.
Life of a Widow
Vrindavan, famous for ages as a major pilgrimage center is a small town near New Delhi, where, according to Srimad Bhagwat Geeta, Lord Krishna spent his childhood days. Unfortunately Vrindavan today is known as the city of Widows where thousands of indigent widows live in shame and poverty to seek spiritual solace – away from their families and society that have turned them out.
Emotionally broken and afraid, the widows lead a very hard and unimaginable life. They are considered inauspicious by their own families, and often ill treated in their homes. Some of them are driven out of their rightful homes, some run away and the holy city, Vrindavan welcomes them.
Exaraveller spoke to Mrs. Radha Das, a 76 year old fragile lady at one of the temples. Radha says, “White is one colour loved by painters on which they splash other colours to make masterpieces. But then why a white saree, the traditional attire of a widow in India is considered a curse and distances her from all other colours?”
This raises a question which should shake all of us. Does she really deserve this horrible life?
Thanks to the efforts of the Supreme Court of India and NGOs like Sulabh International Social Service Organisation, we now see some upliftment. Many individuals and celebrities also arrange for a large number of food items, essential medical supplements and arrange for vocational training.
Programs to involve the widows in all Vedic and festival ceremonies are organised thereby restoring their confidence and dignity, and generating a sense of wellbeing. They also have started re-marriage scheme for the young widows which was considered to be a curse a few years ago.
Outbreak of COVID-19
Year 2020, saw the outbreak of COVID-19 which forced all the temples to shutdown. The widows were not allowed to gather anywhere as they were at a high risk of developing serious illness. It was important to keep them in isolation and provide them nutritious food. With no source of income, thousands of widows became totally dependent on the authorities and ashrams for food, and survival.
The pandemic disheartened these elderly widows, but it didn’t shatter their spirit. Many NGOs played a leading role in adding jollity to the lives of the widows.
Self reliance – Learning new skills
It was the need of the hour to keep them involved in some meaningful contribution and Sulabh International extended support by providing training.
The widows utilised the pandemic as an opportunity, to promote self-reliance, and they decided to make handmade special Lord Krishna themed masks carrying messages like ‘Stay Safe’ and ‘Atmanirbhar’ with material with special design prints of peacock feathers, flutes, etc.
Making masks was a new skill that these widows acquired during the lockdown and prepared more than 5,000 to be distributed free of cost among the police, government employees, sanitation workers, etc.
Arrangements are now being made to sell these designer silk, cotton and khadi masks through various platforms like online portals, the Khadi outlets and also established brands to directly benefit the widows.
Festivals during the lockdown
Widows look forward to various celebrations during religious festivals like Diwali, Holi, etc. Their faces lit up just like the Diyas lighted everywhere in the ages old temples. Playing with over 1000 kgs of Gulal and flower petals on Holi, the festival of colours, the widows sing, dance and embrace each other happily. The sorrows of their lives vanish at least for the time they are celebrating and help them slowly regain their self-esteem.
Due to COVID-19 organising important festivals was also not possible. Holi celebrations for the widows were called off even before the official lockdown. No celebrations for Rakhsha Bandhan or Janamashtami were possible too.
All around help during the pandemic
Even before the lockdown began, Vrindavan streets were sanitised, and people were asked to wear masks. Saints and other religious seers of the city appealed to the public to maintain safe distancing and not to gather in groups. A round the clock ambulance was stationed at the ashrams. The widows were briefed about the symptoms of the disease. They have been also told to put on masks to protect against COVID-19 and adopt and enforce social distancing norms. The widows are being given 20 kg of wheat and 15 kg rice every month, along with a pension of Rs 500-1000 per month depending on her age.
Radha said, “We are following the instructions, taking all precautions, washing our hands frequently, keeping faces fully covered with masks and our sarees, have stopped attending puja ceremonies at the temples.”